Are You ‘ Taken for Granted’ in a Relationship?
Are you really ‘Taken for Granted ‘ in a Relationship? Yes? No? Are you in confusion? Actually, most of us are treated as the ‘Taken for Granted’ in some relationships- may be in couples or within family members and even in our relationships with our children also. But the fact is that often we are not aware of this or we don’t want to feel the reality of the situation. Sometimes we have only little self-respect or very low self-esteem and hence we cannot understand also that our own people are taking us as committed to duties and responsibilities of family or others.
What is ‘Taken for Granted’ in Relationship?
It is the way of not appreciating that person’s effort who is always trying to do his\her best to fulfill your needs or to satisfy you. Here you are not grateful to that person but you want more and more from him\her. You have a huge expectation from that person without doing nothing to him\her. Sometimes the slightest mistake from that person is taken as the big issue or a matter of being irresponsible towards duties. So, “Taken for Granted” generally means the act of expecting a lot from a person without doing anything to him/her, it may be treated as an act ‘being ungrateful’ towards someone.
Signs of ‘Taken for Granted’ in a Relationship
The signs are here so common, so habituated to people that they often cannot understand. Sometimes, we take those signs as the way of showing ‘Love’ or ‘Care’ or ‘Affection’ to us and cannot identify as the trigger points to losing our self. Later, when we feel that really our self-respect, our existence is endangered, it’s too late to take steps to protect ourselves. That’s why’, it is very important to know the common signs of taking as granted in a relationship. The most common signs are stated below so that we can once do the self-checking of the vibes of our relationship.
Never Show Respect Towards ‘You’
If you are ‘Taken for Granted’ in a relationship, your partner will never show respect towards you or your work. He\she only wants to fulfill his\her needs by you but if you are not capable of fulfilling those needs he\she may show disrespect towards you. Sometimes those disrespectful acts may hurt your self-esteem and you may feel low, inferior and hopeless. So, never allow anyone to disrespect you or your work as a part of your self-care activities.
Always Demanding More and More
If your partner or family members are too demanding to you but they are not giving or trying to give anything to you, you must be careful here because they are taking you as the granted one for them. You will surely do your jobs or duties to them as per your capacities and situations but you should not try to fulfill their demands always. Too demanding nature of partner in a relationship is the most common signs of assuming you as the ‘Taken for granted’.
Always Blaming You
If your family members especially your partner try to blame you always for small mistakes or little things of daily life, then you should be careful here. You should not always accept those blames upon you, you need to take stand for you by showing your protest and also raise your voice if you are blamed for others faults.
Never Prioritize ‘You’
You are not in the priority list of your partner, always the work and other activities of your partner is prioritized more than you. If your partner always give more value to his\her work, passion and sometimes the other people than you, you will surely need to take a step towards your self-respect. For example, if your partner always forget or neglect the promises made to you or never prioritize the plans made together, then you can never be his\her priority. Should you make your partner as the top priority of yourself by making you as the ‘Taken for granted.’
Never Involve ‘You’ in Decision Making
If you are not involved in any decision making related to your family, your partner is always taking the decisions and never ask you for any contribution on your part, you are surely ‘ Taken as Granted’ by your partner. Sometimes you may feel or notice that decisions regarding your personal life are also taken by them and this is the worst form of disrespecting someone. Here you will surely need to raise your voice to fight for your rights and never allow anyone to taking you as the granted one in a relationship.
Never Value your Feelings
If your feelings, emotions and desires are not valued in your family, not valued by your partner or spouse, you have actually no value towards your partner. A true relationship always takes care of each other’s feelings and emotions and support each other. If your partner is not giving attention to your feelings- ignoring your wishes or often criticizing you for your emotions and feelings, you are here obviously accepted here as ‘Taken as Granted.’
Never Appreciate ‘You’
If you are never appreciated in your family though you are trying your best for your family or to fulfill the needs of your partner, you are surely considered as the ‘ Taken for Granted.’ Sometimes if you feel that your partner is trying to insult you or criticize you for a silly reason, here you need to protect your self-respect by not making yourself available to your partner. If you are never appreciated in a relationship or no acts of gratitude is shown to you by your partner, you are actually “Taken as Granted” in your relationship.
Words from Wingsofwishes.in
It’s really very tough for someone to feel that he\she is “Taken for Granted” in a relationship because we initially think that those signs are the care or live to us. But later as we feel disrespectful and too demanding behaviors from our partners, we should be careful and not allow anyone including our family members to use us for their needs only. Let us Value ourselves and do our duties and responsibilities but not make as someone who is taken for granted.
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