5 Effective Tips to Deal with Tantrums of Children without Physical Punishment.

28/09/2024 by Archita De

Tantrums of Children

Are you Familiar with Tantrums of Children? Can you deal effectively with those tantrums or you are helpless? Do you ever use physical punishment to stop such behavioral tantrums in your children? Actually, parents are struggling to deal with the children showing frequent tantrums and sometimes are bound to take the help of physical punishment. But physical punishment can never be the solution to minimize such tantrums in children. So, the parent must think of some alternative strategies to deal with those children showing tantrums frequently.

What are Tantrums of Children?

Tantrums means a sudden period of Emotional outburst or a sudden period of uncontrolled Anger usually seen in younger children but also present in adolescents if their behavioral tantrums are not minimized or healed in their childhood. Tantrums are the major cause of behavioral disorders in children and parents are really struggling to deal with such children. Sometimes the children hit themselves physically due to their tantrums, for example, a child kicking head on wall and screaming too loudly for not getting his\her favorite toy is really challenging for parents. Biting people, throwing items, yelling etc. are more common outburst of tantrums and may continue in adult life if not treated or minimized in childhood.

How to Deal with Tantrums of Children?

Parents need a great range of patience, empathy and obviously a set of skills to deal with those children showing tantrums. According to Rebecca Eanes, The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting, Tantrums are not bad behavior. Tantrums are an expression of emotion that became too much for the child to bear. No punishment is required. What your child needs is compassion and safe, loving arms to unload in.” But here we parents usually commit mistakes, in spite of helping our children to come out of those tantrums we start to punish them, yell at them and make the situations more complicated for the children. Here some effective tips to deal with the Tantrums of Children are shared below.

Don’t Give Attention

The tantrums in children are due to their unfulfilled needs or desire, they show such tantrums to fulfill their needs, their desires. For example, if you switch off the TV when your child is watching his\her favorite cartoon channel, he\she may start to scream or roll on the floor or other symptoms so that you may be forced to again switch on the TV. Is not it? can you relate here? Here as a parent, you need to be calm and don’t give attention to such tantrums. If the child is not able to get attention after showing tantrums, he\she surely show less tantrums as his\her needs are not given priority or attention.

Use Distractions

Using Distractions to reduce the tantrums is very useful in younger children, you may take out your child out of the situation to distract his or her mind. In our younger days also, whenever we cried out for something, our parents or grandparents took us outside most probably in nature and thus we forgot for what we cried a lot. Do you have such experiences in your life? Here also we can use the distractions as a useful tip to minimize the Tantrums of Children.

Praise as Pampered Talks

Sometimes Praise as Pampered Talks work as Magical words to reduce the symptoms of tantrums in children. When your child is showing violent behaviors, screaming or hurting himself\herself, you can then use the ‘Praise’ as magical words instead of punishment and show the magic. Maybe you are not believing me but practice it with patience and show its usefulness. I have seen that whenever my child showed tantrums like throwing things, I just used the words that ‘my boy is a very good boy, he takes care of everything, never destroys anything etc.’ and those words made him to stop his tantrums. Thus, you can use Praise as a tool to reduce Tantrums of Children.

Accept Emotions of Children

Sometimes the children showing tantrums want mainly to express their emotions and whenever the parents are trying to accept the emotions of children, the tantrums of children are automatically reduced a lot. For example, if a 6–7-year-old girl showing tantrums for playing a video game, as a parent you should talk to your girl to process her emotions or needs and explain the alternative ways to involve like physical playing activities with friends or family members. Here recognizing the emotions of your girl first soothes her and she make herself ready to choose the alternatives.

Talk to Children in Cool Period

To minimize the Tantrums of Children, the parents should talk with the children not during the hours of tantrums but the period whenever they are cool, doing normal activities. At those times, the parents can talk with the children in an empathetic manner to accept and process their issues of tantrums and be ready to extend their support to minimize the intensity of tantrums in children. But for too younger children, this will not be beneficial- it’s mainly beneficial with the children more than 6 years old. It’s also seen that Praise in association with cool Talks are really good for some pre-primary kids.

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The Tantrums of Children is really a matter of tension and anxiety of parents, sometimes parents are ashamed of their children whenever they are showing tantrums in public spaces or in front of guests. But here the parents need a lot of patience, positive mindset and skills to deal with the tantrums of children. As a parent are you ready to deal with the Tantrums of Children?